Do we really want honesty?

Dear Lovers of Truth,

“People say they love truth, but in reality they want to believe that which they love is true.”-Robert Ringer

I saw this quote the other day and it reminded me of all of the women who “fall in love” and then are heartbroken when the guy isn’t everything they dreamed him up to be. I guess I shouldn’t single out women, because there are men who do the same thing. But actually, I will single out women because they’re the ones who are clogging my twitter feed with their heartbroken rants about cheaters, men who are “confused” (according to the tweeter) because they don’t realize that they’re really meant to be together forever, and of course the men who are stupid. (Sidenote: Thank goodness for the twitter apps that allow you to mute people!!)

Now I will be the first to tell any of my girl friends that boys are stupid. BUT I also think girls are stupid. I’m an equal opportunity labeler of stupid. I just think each sex shows it in different ways, but that’s a letter for another day. Back to the matter of truth at hand we go.

If your significant other is open and honest with you, you should treasure it. If someone tells you they don’t want to be with you, chances are it’s not one of those rare moments where the love of your life walks away and then after a specified amount of time decides to come back and declare their undying love for you. Be grateful that the person told you how they felt and didn’t choose to end things by cheating on you or disappearing. And if your significant other fesses up about a mistake, if you truly love them, you have to assess whether or not its something you’ll be able to accept and move pass. People are going to make mistakes, we’re all human, it’s what we do. Some mistakes are more easily forgivable than others, but we can’t expect our boyfriends, girlfriends, fiancés and spouses to never let us down. It’s a fact of life—every relationship has its highs and its lows. Hopefully, yours has more highs than lows…

So if you’re looking for true love, convinced you’ve found true love, or trying to convince yourself that you’ve found true love, think about whether you’re happier with someone who tells you what you want to hear or someone who’s honest with you.


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